Life is Short Handle With Love

26 Jan Posted by in Rhonda's Blog | 8 comments
Life is Short Handle With Love

* Thirteen years ago, January 2004, was the last time I saw my youngest sister, Robin. Three days later, at the age of 42, she died of a heart attack.


I love this picture of my sister Robin. So beautiful! (January 31,1961 – January 26, 2004)

Let me back up…two weeks before…

I flew to Las Vegas and visited my two sisters who lived there.  We had a wonderful time.  Robin and I spent a lot of time together.  Mostly talking.  We were like a couple of school girls catching up on so many things…as it wasn’t often that we were together.  In addition, we even did devotions together and prayed together. And the great news is that Robin came back to the Lord!

Anyway…our last morning together, before flying home, Robin and I went out to eat. I remember it was on a Friday. We had a nice breakfast and more great sharing together. However, when we said our good-byes I had a very unusual experience.  We hugged and kissed, and as I walked away from her (about 20 feet away) this thought came into my heart and mind, “You will not see Robin again here.” I stopped walking.  I turned around and walked back to Robin.  I kissed her again and held her tight…saying our good-byes one more time. Right before exiting the restaurant I looked back one more time and waved.  We both had big smiles on our faces.  And that was the last time I saw her alive.

I tried to call Robin over the week-end, and got her answering machine, so I left a message. I didn’t hear back from her.  On Monday morning, our sister Rosie called me.  She told me that Robin had died of a heart attack that morning.

I was shocked.

When in that restaurant when I had that thought…I reasoned…normally I don’t see my sisters except every couple of years, perhaps Robin would be with the Lord. However, I never figured it would be just three days later that she would be gone.

That was thirteen years ago; it’s hard to believe; the time has gone by so fast.  I love Robin and miss her so much.  I do thank God for the sister reunion we’ll have one day…what an exciting day that will be…and that day is getting closer.

James 4:14b, “What is your life? It is a mist that appears for a little while.  Then it disappears.”

Since life is so short, how should we live? How should we treat other people? What kind of legacy will we leave behind? What will people say about you and me when we are gone?

Ephesians 4:32 says, “Be kind to each other, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, just as God through Christ has forgiven you.”  Just three words, three simple words, yet, three powerful words. Words that will change our lives and words that will change other people’s lives––“kind, tenderhearted, forgiving”. I hope when it’s my time to meet my Savior face to face that people will say about me, “Rhonda was kind, tenderhearted, forgiving.”

Yesterday is past.  Tomorrow is future.  We have only today, right now to be kind, tenderhearted, forgiving. By God’s grace let’s do it!

Life is short handle with Love.


* First published 2010, updated January 26, 2017



  • Mary Beth Ethridge says:

    Robin looks pretty in the photo. Thankfully she returned to The Lord before she died unexpectedly. I feel your heartache as you still missed her. It won’t be long till you see her again.

  • Thank you Mary. When Robin went to Jesus, or course, I was heart broken…and yet, I found so many things to be thankful for. I was there for two weeks, TWO WEEKS (in the past I was usually there for 3, maybe 4 days), I was able to see her right before it happened, we talked about spiritual things, and so many other things I could share…God is so very good to me! To us! Praise His Name forever!!!

  • Jody says:

    Robin is so pretty. I’m glad you had that special time with her. It’s such a gift.

  • Jody, it was such a special time and a gift as you share. Truly our God is merciful and gracious. His love is beyond our wildest imagination! How does that saying go? “When you can’t see His hand, trust His heart.” And we do…you and me! Blessings of peace and joy my dear friend.

  • Tricia Borman says:

    Hi Rhonda, I read ur message and it made the tears come down on my face… ten years ago.. wow but I find it so so touching that Robin came back to the Lord because of your and her time together . No one ever knows when they will die cuz only God knows. I appreciate your sharing the story and I also read before about your aunt who passed away late last year as well… I feel wow u took time to send me a card on loss of my mom and yet u went thru grieving yourself for your aunt.
    I am still having a really hard time with my own life since it is so different without my mom… Your story touches my heart….

  • Dear Tricia, There are so many things to thank God about…regarding my sister Robin. I am thankful I was there right before it happened and we were together for TEN days. And especially I’m thankful that she came back to the Lord. It is hard losing someone. My Mom has been gone since 1980. The raw grief is gone…yet I wish Mom was here for special things that happen (for example: grandbabies being born-those were hard days for me, especially the first one…a Mom should just be there. And lots of other celebrations, etc.). Yes, our Moms not being here…truly, you say it well, “life it is so different without my mom”. May God continue to comfort you and bring you peace and hope. I love you, Tricia. Rhonda

  • D. Dirkx says:

    It surely is an impact blow in the heart. I broke down. My brother’s been gone 34 years ago to car-truck collision as my brother & the other driver were on their way to the fields to finish harvesting before a heavy rainfall coming in few days. You see, he (my brother) was called by God to become a Pastor but he had his tug-of-war thing and decided to take farming as my folks gave him the farm. That day was beautiful and sunny, lunch was gathered with his wife & two kids & my folks. The two kids wanted to ride with him on a tractor, he said to them, “another time” so God took him Home.

    I feel you. I miss him a lot and I know I’ll see him soon. Thank you for sharing… I love ya!

  • Dear “RevBear”, Thank you for sharing about your precious brother. I did not know that about you, about your family. There are so many things in life that we do not understand. Happen 34 years ago, time does go by fast! One day when we are with the Lord…we will understand more than we do right now. We serve a faithful God who has promised us the Blessed Hope! Our Family reunion…and sealed it with His blood! I thank God that you have kept your eyes on Jesus, the Author and Perfecter of your faith…and you are serving Him with the Call He has on your life. To God be the glory for the things He is doing in and through you! See you on FB until we meet again. \|m/ hugs.

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